I’m home for a minute. I get to see the Hubby for a day or two, then it’s back to the mine fields. This thing with my brother – epic as it may be – will eventually get resolved. The key is finding a sympathetic landlord, as his is a most unusual situation. That may take a while, so it’s Plan B, moving stuff into a storage unit. If it were going to be an organized move, with boxes and some sort of command of the situation by the movers, that would be one thing. But I’m looking at motorcycles and scooters, parts, tools, and things un-packed. And of course, my brother’s now ill with pneumonia. He went to the hospital today but wasn’t admitted. I hope the antibiotics will pull him through this episode and at least allow us to get him out.
I can’t believe this is happening while my father spirals downward. If he doesn’t do chemo, I fear he won’t make the end of the year. He’s not doing well at all, and the stress of caring for my brother is undoubtedly accelerating his demise. His fervent hope was to finish and publish his book before he died, but with everything, I’m afraid I’ll have to finish it for him and get it published.
My mother is up in arms about everything and her illnesses are taking over her body. Yet she refuses to take the time off to see the doctor (mostly because, without me there, she’s the only left to care for both my father and brother). She’s 76, can’t see very well and therefore doesn’t drive the freeway, and I bet she’s much more ill than she lets on. I hope she doesn’t just drop one day.
My heart breaks every moment, thinking about my parents and brother. I am angry at my sister for not having the commitment that I do towards my family, but she left home at 16 and was always distant (there are exceptions to this, usually when money is involved). She is detached, which serves her well, but the manager in her always has to take credit for whatever minimal effort she makes. Her MO is to throw money at things, so maybe someday that will prove itself the most useful. However, I fear for my brother’s welfare when my parents and I are gone. I fear he’ll be walking the streets.
I’m not trying to save the world. I’d like to make my father’s last days tolerable, peaceful, free of physical pain, at least. It might be time for hospice soon. I’d like for my mom to spend quality time with him before he goes. I’d like my brother to be taken care of by some other entity besides my mom, who can no longer do it. And I’d like to see my Hubby more than one or two days a month. These are my dreams. Oh yeah, and if my sister could see one of these items through, that would be a friggin’ miracle.